What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
16.06.2025 02:55
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Off the top of my ancient head:
Why do men like to suck another man’s dick?
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Why do you think it is bad to allow people to self-identify as a different gender?
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Do you as a gay male enjoy the feeling of getting a penis in your anus?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.